Today’s Guest Post is by Erica, who blogs as The Incidental Parent. A forty-something mother of two boys trying to hold on to her identity and sanity. She writes about everything from parenting with Crohn’s Disease to being a stay-at-home feminist to days out in her local town of Sevenoaks. Follow Erica on social media: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram.
One thing I noticed fairly soon after I fell pregnant was that I was no longer ME.
Fathers seem to keep their identity, after all their body hardly changes during pregnancy, whereas mothers seem to have to try very hard to keep hold of their identity or attempt to regain it. My good friend Anna from Me, Annie Bee and I wanted to set up a Facebook group where we were individuals in our own right. There are plenty of online communities for mums, but none, it seemed, for women whether you have children or not. I have friends that don’t have children and I wanted a group where we can all hang out together!
Having a place where we are no one’s mother, daughter, or partner was really important to us. We wanted to create an inclusive online community for women and this is where Rebel Femmes came in. Rebel Femmes is a safe space where all women are welcome. There is no negativity, no bitching – our aim is to bring women together, to support each other, to be kind to one another.
Our main rule is that members with children do not discuss their children. We are there as individuals, not mothers. This way we are all equal.
As women we do not yet have equal rights to men and the only way we can bring about change is to work with each other. To stop the Daily Mail style attack of women. Pitting women against each other will only succeed in dragging us back.
Rebel Femmes is a place for ALL women. No matter your background, social status, religious beliefs. Healthy debate is welcome, in fact it’s encouraged. There is no right or wrong and we listen and respect other opinions. We do not tolerate hate speech of any kind.
We like to think of Rebel Femmes as getting in from a hard day at work, closing the front door and chilling out. We share our ups and downs, highs and lows. We share make up tips, recipes, jokes and dilemmas. We chat about all sorts, we are those women propping up the bar in the pub with a pint, or a cocktail – whatever floats your boat.
Anna and I are very proud of our safe space and would like to invite any woman to join us. The Rebel Femmes group can be found here.