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To quote her, she’s missed Rainbows: ‘Once in Reception when I was sick, once in Year 1 when I was sick and for B2′s birthday’. That’s dedication and commitment.
When my eldest started playing rugby a couple of years ago, the then-coach, his best friend’sdad, said he didn’t need to attend every week – three weeks out of four should be fine. Well, we do attend every week with both boys.
My husband the football coach has an issue with boys who don’t turn up for training because they’re going to a birthday party or they’ve got family friends coming over. But as I said to him, not everyone places the same importance on sport as we do and not everyone sees it as the commitment we do. For the majority of parents and childre it is something they do most of the time, but they’re not going to change their plans or stop living their lives for football training.
This week, controversially, my younger son is missing rugby for a birthday party. It’s one of his best friends, so I feel it’s the right thing to do. I wouldn’t be so keen for him to miss it if it was just someone from his class he wasn’t particularly close to who’d invited the whole class.
But where we think it’s generally wrong to say ‘I can’t come to football (or rugby or Scouts) I’m going to a birthday party’ I think most people would consider us mad to say ‘I can’t go to the party, I’ve got a rugby match’.
So who’s right? Are we too committed? Should doing other stuff take priority over regular commitments, or should regular commitments take precedence over everything else?