A few days ago I received this comment on this blog’s Facebook page, in reply to a post I’d shared.
“I am sorry to put it this way, but I have briefly read through some articles here, such as the holiday and sizing up the family car and I have to say that for a supporter of single parents, the contents are easily viewed by some single parents as inappropriate, because of content. When presenting articles aimed at single parents, you need to exercise a little politics. A large number of lone parents do not have the income to indulge in such activities described. this can be viewed as hurtful and offensive.”
If I’m honest my first reaction was to be quite stung by it, after all I don’t court controversy on here and have only had a couple of negative comments over four years (my favourite was the recent “Ur a dik hed” It made my day).
Then, after I’d had some time to digest it I was slightly annoyed. Annoyed with the idea that I had somehow offended single parents, and also with the inference that I’m a supporter of single parents in name only.
The main theme of this blog is to share my own experiences and offer help by directing single parents to the right place. Yes okay, I’m not storming Downing Street waving a placard but I like to think it might help some single parents in a small way, and indeed I’ve had emails and messages to back that up.
The comment also implied that some of the topics covered on here – namely our recent holiday and wanting to upsize our smaller car – were inappropriate. Inappropriate.
Why is a one-week holiday in Wales inappropriate for single parents to read? Single parents have holidays too, in fact I happen to know that some single parents even go abroad!
And while we’re at it, let’s explode some myths about single parents:
- not all single parents are destitute;
- many single parents have careers, or at least decent jobs;
- there are plenty of us who take holidays, have nice homes, drive a car, buy designer brands, eat in restaurants with proper napkins, drink good quality wine and own an iPad;
- most are not single parents situation by choice, but still try to make the most of a sometimes difficult situation.